Loving What Is

JAY BRADLEY

WELLNESS--We all have places that we want to be and goals that have yet to be attained. We wouldn’t be human if we didn’t strive for more and want the best in life. I definitely feel that I have much more to accomplish in this lifetime and often feel disappointed that I’m not “there” yet. 

But unless we all learn to love where we are right here and right now, we will never find true satisfaction. Learning to be present in this moment without living out past or future events is the key to our lasting joy. Also knowing that getting “there” is really an illusion that we create based upon various factors including financial gain, fame, and the attainment of certain goals. 

While it’s vital to have dreams about our future, it is equally important to learn to love what is. Yes this means that we love the mediocre job we hold, our credit card bills, the unhappy relationship, or the fact that we aren’t where we’d like to be. 

When we live with resentment or fear, we miss out on life as it is in the present. Often we judge where we are or resist what is happening because we don’t want it to be this way. But by doing this we only perpetuate the experience. 

Learning to be fully aware and present and more importantly, to love every moment whether or not it seems good or bad, positive or negative, is vital. And it is also one of the most challenging thing that we will do. 

What we resist persists. When we want things to change, WE must change. Perhaps it is time to start looking more deeply at the reasons you may be feeling stuck and then work to more consciously embrace all that is. This is the true act of surrendering. Surrender is fully accepting and loving what is while holding a positive intention for better things to come. It really is a fine balancing act indeed. 

When we can get still, meditate, connect to a higher source, and find gratitude, we begin to refill this empty place within us that tells us we need more. We re-charge our spiritual batteries, and remember that this moment is all we have. Let’s begin making the best of it and consciously shift our thoughts day-by-day, moment-by-moment into a more positive and loving way. Let’s commit fully to loving what is.

(Jay Bradley is an anti-aging & wellness coach living in Los Angeles. He is the author of LIVE LOOK FEEL, The 12-Week Guide to Live Longer, Look Younger & Feel Better! Jay can be reached at: jaybradleylifestyle.com

-cw